Ordering Your Conversation


“…and to him that ordereth his conversation aright will I show the salvation of God” Ps. 50:23.

God is asking His people to “order” their conversation and to order it “ARIGHT”. The word order in the original Greek is “soom or seem” which means appoint, ordain, rehearse, work.

  1. These are the works of evil (what an evil man does with his mouth):
    1. They hate instruction(The Lord’s instruction)
    2. They cast the instruction of the Lord behind
    3. They speak against their own brother
    4. They slander about their brother
    5. They consents with an evil person
    6. They partake with adulterers
    7. They give their mouth to evil
    8. Their tongue frame deceit
  2. We are to order our conversation. Order means to dispose (arrange, set in readiness, arrange in an orderly way). Our conversation should e ordered, disposed, rehearsed. Why should it be ordered or rehearsed? So that it is right, whatever comes out of our mouth is the right conversation.
  3. God is telling the wicked: Let there be a change in your attitude. Do not hate the Lord’s instruction but love it!! Go into God’s presence seeking instruction. The purpose of your quiet time and time with God should be to receive instruction(chastisement if necessary, discipline, correction, …doctrine)
  4. When an instruction comes to you from the Lord assimilate it, actuate it and let it become part of your life!

Few things to stir away from:

v  Do not consent (be pleased with, accept, approve) with an evil person.

v   Do not partake with adulterers.

The dictionary meaning of partake:

  • Do not have any portion with
  • Have anything to do with
  • To take part in/with
  • To have portion of/fellowship with

The writer of proverbs is clearly telling us (under the direction of the Holy Spirit) not to have fellowship/communion with adulterers.

v  Do not allow your mouth to speak evil (give your mouth to evil)

v  Do not frame any fraud or deceit or guile with your mouth

v  Do not speak against your brother

v  Do not slander your brother


The heart – The source

Psalm 39

Psalm 39 gives a deep insight into the struggle David has a king, controlling his tongue. Let’s take a look at some of the key verses on this psalm :

Psalm 39:1  To the chief Musician, even to Jeduthun, A Psalm of David. I said, I will take heed to my ways, that I sin not with my tongue: I will keep my mouth with a bridle, while the wicked is before me.

David is making a decision here unto himself, that he will not sin with his tongue. His approach to not sin with the tongue is to bridle it. He says that he will take heed to his ways , which means that he will pay close attention to the path he will walk in.

Key words

  • His ways – The word ‘way’ is translated in the greek as ‘derek’ . It means ‘a course of life or mode of action’. It could also mean journey.
  • Take heed – The work ‘take heed’ is translated as ‘shamar’. Shamar means to hedge, protect ,attend to.

So David is saying that while the wicked are before him  he will [‘guard’, hedge] his mouth while the wicked are before him. David probably understood what Jesus said centuries later in  Mat 15:18  But those things which proceed out of the mouth come forth from the heart; and they defile the man.

David understood that every time he said something that was not according to god’s will or God’s revealed will, he was sinning. I am sure he would have felt that ‘sense of defilement’ every time he said something of that nature.

The emotion connection

It is a good decision to guard your mouth, but is it enough? Lets read on to see what followed:

Psa 39:2  I was dumb with silence, I held my peace, even from good; And my sorrow was stirred.

True to his word, he keeps silence. He is in his own words dumb [tongue tied]. I am sure that after he made this decision , several opportunities showed up at his door requiring that he participate and participate actively. But David says that he was silent in all these situations. He even withheld himself when speaking when it was good.

When the wicked was there, he, David held his peace (withheld himself from speaking) even when it was good. Why? This is a great key. We may think that speaking what is good is a good thing. Not always. Sometimes we just need to keep silent. A perfect example is the Lord Jesus Christ himself. When he was accused and genuinely asked, he remained silent ( Mark 15:1-5). He only spoke to answer one question of Pilate : Art thou the King of the Jews?

But, we also notice something happening within David which he explicitly calls out:

Ps 39:2 … and my sorrow was stirred.

It is true that David kept silent, but deep within his heart,  his emotions were boiling. His sorrow [grief, pain, sorrow] was stirred.

Let’s read on….

Psa 39:3  My heart was hot within me, while I was musing the fire burned: then spake I with my tongue.

David didn’t keep silent. He spoke. But he spoke to the Lord. He turned his emotional despair to a prayer. This is the key! We can make many decisions. But to keep them, we need to channel our decisions in the Lord. David found this ‘channel’ through prayer. He would pour out his heart to God , who would comfort and strengthen him.